Many years ago there was a show on TV called “Kids Say the Darndest Things.” The host would ask kids questions, and they'd come back with priceless comments that were spontaneous and socially unfiltered. It could be cute and funny.
Unfortunately, when you're undergoing fertility treatment, you may encounter some spontaneous and unfiltered comments that are considerably less cute or funny. These remarks can plant a punch on your emotional well-being. Most of the time, the person making the comment isn’t even aware of the pain they've caused you.
Often, these remarks are aimed at women, but men deal with their fair share of uncensored comments, too. Here are a few of the comments we know couples seeking fertility treatment often have to deal with-- and some ideas for dealing with them gracefully.
And, the number one all-time chart topper: "You just need to relax, and it'll happen naturally!"
I talk with couples every day who say that they took it for granted that they would have a family. They certainly didn’t anticipate timed intercourse, the loss of intimacy, the costs and the roller coaster of emotions. To have to deal with the slings and arrows lobbed at them by well-meaning friends and families is just one more unpleasant side effect of infertility.
So, what can you do about it? Whether you're an outspoken person who has to hold their tongue to prevent flying off the handle, or a sensitive soul who's at breaking point, you can take action to prevent the people closest to you from unintentionally ruining your day-- or your relationship with them.
We at InVia have helped many parents on the pathway to pregnancy-- and we get how stressful and isolating it can be. We're here to listen when you need us. Make an appointment at one of our Chicago-area clinics today.
Mrs. Susan Beckman has been the Clinical Nurse Manager, Donor Coordinator and Study Coordinator at InVia Fertility Specialists for the past six years. Sue came to InVia Fertility with more than 30 years of nursing experience in Stroke Rehabilitation, General Medicine /Surgical, Cardiology and Maternal/Child nursing. The last 23 years of her career have been focused on women’s health. She was a staff nurse on a busy Maternity Unit, with a focus on high-risk labor and delivery, patient & staff education/program development, as progressed through the clinical ladders to become the Clinical Nurse Manager. Sue find the challenges of working with couples through the many phases of their reproductive life to be extremely rewarding as it draws on the skills that she has personally and professionally developed over the course of her career.
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